3 posts tagged “relationships”

What are your deal breakers in a relationship?

In no particular order

Cheating/disloyalty/violence of any sort, obviously. I'm not one of those excessively possessive types but nevertheless I really don't appreciate the man flirting with other women.

Lying. White lies are understandable depending on the circumstances but otherwise lying even about small things reflects a lack of comfort in the vibe between two people.

Excessive religiosity. I really can't adjust to rituals and/or reliance upon divinity to get you through every tough situation. And I get murderous if someone tries to force religion on me.

Cruelty to animals. I'm not a crazy animal lover but that's more because I've never had a pet. I believe they must be treated with great care and kindness though and anyone who throws stones at cats or kicks dogs deserves similar treatment themselves.

Being rude to waiters, maids, cabin crew, chauffeurs etc. Anyone who's in your service and is relatively helpless against the manifestations of your damned ego. One of the first things I observe in any man is the way he treats those under him or in his pay.

Bad hygiene of any sort. I don't care how wonderful the man is, if he doesn't know how to keep clean, GOODBYE!

Tightfistedness. (If that wasn't a word, well, it is now, hee). There's no need to splurge your way through life but please, counting every penny when you don't really need to is just annoying. I like men who enjoy fine dining and nice holidays and the opera and theatre and things like that. Even if it can be managed only once in a while. Men who are generous enough to take their friends out to dinner once in a while, or pick up the tab as a surprise.

Of course, these rules work both ways. If I want my partner to possess these qualities I can't afford to lack them myself.