5 posts tagged “stupid”
Why are there links to strange people's posts at the side of so many of my posts? And how can I turn this weirdness off? Because it is annoying me, to say the least.
Procrastinator posted something on her blog that I'm glad I didn't miss out on. I'd suspected the dumbing down of this generation, of course, but I've never had such incontrovertible proof presented to me before. I actually have no words to describe that young woman's intellect (the girl in the video, I mean, not Procrastinator! hehe) or my utter (and completely judgemental, I admit) anger that people who have it all and can empower themselves with knowledge, make a difference in this world, choose to turn out this way.
Actually, for your convenience, enjoyment, and horror, I shall repost the video.
Gasp.
What's your favourite flavor of ice cream?
Classic favourites are butterscotch and cappuccino/coffee walnut. I usually don't like more complex flavours and definitely not when they're mixed together in stripes and suchlike. Also love gelato in all flavours except watermelon and whisky!
By the way, this QotD has the stupidest title ever. LOL.
... to decline responsibility for other people's problems.
Rohinton Mistry's Family Matters has a character, a young boy, who notably remarks once on how death makes us appreciate life so much, and keep "the stupid and the ugly" out of our daily lives. The stupid and the ugly -- another way of saying what others have said about not sweating the small stuff. I never read the book in its entirety but its title has always appealed to me -- Don't Sweat the Small Stuff (and it's all small stuff).
One of the things about being the instinctively angry person that I am involves a great guilt once the anger has died down. But more and more the guilt for me is no longer restricted just to the person I yelled at; it's also about having wasted those precious moments in my day. Anger is a boomerang. And an utter waste of time. And meanness may give you a momentary sense of self-satisfaction at having "proved a point" or given someone "a dose of their own medicine" or what have you, but the fact remains that it is a waste of time.
When people feel devastated that a loved one has been diagnosed with a fatal disease, because that person is going to die, I am struck by the thought that it's not just that person who's going to die. I don't mean to be morbid here, but going to die means stepping closer to giving up this life and in that sense, we're all dying. None of us knows how much longer we have. Or where life is going to take us. Closer to whom, or away from whom. It's so important to squeeze all the smiles and laughter and goodwill you can from each day, because each day brings its unlimited quota of those if we only seek them -- and with the passage of each day, they too slip out of our grasp. They're all there for the taking, they're all free, they're all meant to be enjoyed. Of course, things do happen to upset or grieve us greatly, and I'm not saying sorrow must be sidelined; it brings its own lessons and gifts. But I seem to have consistently chosen to be unhappy, complaining, angry and whiney for so many years, without even having genuine reasons to be, most of the time. Now that I'm trying to tackle my short fuse and manage my anger and negativity better, I can see how all of that has never benefited me. I've allowed imaginary problems and passing blips to send me spiralling into long-drawn-out depressions. I've given other negative, controlling people a power over my moods and outlook that I should never have surrendered, because my moods are and should remain my choice. If I let others affect them, I'm being stupid. Would you willingly hand over your lifetime savings to some random stranger who makes a mean comment about you? And say, "I hate you, so I'm going to let you do with this as you will"? I'm grateful that the realisation has dawned upon me that my peace of mind is an equally, if not more valuable commodity and is to be guarded jealously.
I'm really trying hard to keep my negativity in check by focussing on other things, by keeping busy. My success rate isn't incredibly encouraging or anything but it's showing improvement, as I continue to work at it. I invite you too to endeavour to keep "the stupid and the ugly" out of your life. There could be thoughts, situations or even people who fit this bill, LOL. The banality that this is, it's nevertheless true: Life is too short to be miserable.
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